'I Will Hold Space For Your Darkness'
As a First Responder or Emergency Services Member, you can see the best and very worst of humanity.
You encounter people in crisis, often experiencing what could be the most horrible day of their lives, and it's your job to help them.
You know that's your role, to be the person running towards danger instead of from it; to be called to a scene and provide critical care/medical assistance, no matter the cause or circumstances.
You are identifiable by your uniform and the courage it takes, to not only wear it, but perform the role it requires.
For all the joyous moments and camaraderie a First Responder/Emergency Services job creates, there is also an element of darkness that permeates it all. Bearing witness to the depravity of humanity, the aftermath of sheer bad luck - being in the wrong place at the wrong time, trying desperately to save someone, yet being unable to. Or even being judged and hated simply for the uniform that you wear.
That darkness creates a weight, although invisible, that you all carry; in your minds, your hearts, your souls, your bodies, your memories and sometimes, your nightmares.
How do I know any of this...???
Because I was a First Responder and Emergency Services Member for
almost a decade. I'm also married to a 20+ year veteran and currently
serving Captain of a Fire Department.
It's common in this culture not to want to talk to anyone about the
things we see, in any kind of capacity. Even though the mental health
burden is significant and real, the risk of showing any kind of
perceived vulnerability, weakness or the notion that you "can't cope",
often prevents many from reaching out for help or discussing our
struggles with anyone.
And it's not just us; it's our loved ones, friends and those in romantic relationships with us, who also see what we experience, read it on our faces, bear the brunt of our bad moods, even if we don't talk to them about it.
Whether it's you or a spouse/partner you're supporting with a difficult profession, having someone listen, can make an enormous difference to your quality of life. I believe having a Law Enforcement background allows me a unique understanding and perspective into helping First Responder Clients with any and all aspects of their life; relationship struggles, improvements they wish to make, goals they want to attain and finding a balance between their demanding work and the life they want to be living.
As a Master Certified Life Coach, I specialize in helping any First Responder, Emergency Services Member, their Partner, Spouse or Loved One.
Police and all Law Enforcement Officers
Nurses and Doctors
Dispatchers and Corrections Officers
Anyone serving on the front lines, protecting their community.
If this sounds like you, or the kind of help someone you love needs, please reach out.